Monday, June 29, 2009

SUCCESS


When i heard that one of my friend is setting up his very own company, I was like ,wow.. He's moving forward while I'm still here one year after finishing my study. Yeah, I'm quite impressed and amazed by his courage on running his own business. Hopefully he will make it in current global economical issues. Plus with limited knowledge and experience in administering the business.

That's his story. What about me? I've made it too, in my own way. From zero to hero. (hahaha) Because I see an achievement as something that i've gained by my own effort, never care about the value because for me an achievement is invaluable. And sometimes even failure can be seen as an achievement when it teaches me to come back for more and never give up easily.

I called my very best friend last night, chatting about so many things. She told me about her work, and I told her mine. We were laughing at each other for what happened to both of us. Complaining about our current life compared to other friends who has better life. Then we realized that life is not just about obtaining something that we wish for, its likely about going through what we sometimes hate, and be back for something better. Well, sometimes life is funny and thank God for everything i've achieved until today, and that i still have what i own today.

The road to success is not an easy and smooth path, there are so many sadness, failure and rejection to find along the way to get it. I came across a writing indicating that one must face failure in order to succeed, and there's no escape from that. That's why I said, even failure can be seen as an achievement. So, never evaluate your success only from the property you have or may have. Open your eyes and see deeper in your life that you must have something to be proud with.. and that's your real success.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

WHEN I FEEL down...

Have you ever feel like hiding away from the surrounding world? Feeling desolated by what had happened on you today, or yesterday, or the past times? Or maybe for some serious cases, feel useless and hopeless?

I know how it feels as i do feel it sometimes.. and believe me, it doesn't feel good.
When i feel down, I tend to be vulnerable and sensitive which results to a short term isolation. Most of the time, I like to go calming myself alone at the park and usually it works. After spending a few moments, I can feel the energy is back and there i am ready again.

Nevertheless, that method doesn't really work for some cases. For instant when I feel financially depressed, it takes me some advance methods of solving it. Being at the park for financial problem doesn't make it any better. There should be other way to solve the problem, not just sit back and let it be. My solution based on the cause.

And I am very grateful to Allah for every strength He gave me to find solution to my problems.

Sunday, March 1, 2009

TIPS:HOW TO DEAL WITH CRITICSM AND AVOID STRESS


If you are a person who only loves to hear praises and good comments, make up your mind and get real. There's no one who can be totally perfect from every angle. Every normal human being will at least do something wrong in his whole life, and I firmly believe in that. And the sequence of the mistake done is CRITICISM which most of the time hurts especially for those who is vulnerable to criticism. Thus, learning on how to take the criticism in a healthy way shall help us from feeling down.

1. Listen to what a critic is saying. Really listen, try to understand that point of view, don’t just nod while you formulate your retorts.

2. Don’t be defensive. This is the toughest step. You may have your own point, but try to remind your self , “I welcome criticism. This person is helping me. I’m eager to hear how to improve myself/life.”

3. Don’t fire back by criticizing your critic. Your comments will just sound defensive, and you’ll escalate the exchange. This urge is very difficult to resist, because the impulse to justify and attack is strong when you feel criticized, but it just isn’t helpful, and it certainly isn’t effective.

4. Delay your reaction. Count to ten, take a deep breath, sleep on it, wait until the next day to react to the critic…any kind of delay is good. For example, when you’re upset about something that happened to you, don't let yourself do anything about it for few moment – and sometimes no action is better than action.

5. Explain honestly the reason for your actions. Sometimes it’s tempting to re-characterize your actual feelings and motives. Usually, though, that just complicates things more. It becomes impossible to have an honest exchange.

6. Admit your mistakes. This is extremely effective and disarming. When I got my first job, my father told me, “If you take the blame, you’ll get the responsibility.” I’ve found that to be very true. Difficult, but true. Admitting mistakes is the first step, then…

7. Explain what you’ve learned. If you can show a critic that you’ve learned something, you prove that you’ve understood the criticism and tried to act on it. That, itself, usually mollifies critics.

8. Enjoy the fun of failure. Re-frame the issue entirely to embrace criticism. Fact is, trying new things and aiming high opens you to criticism. Tell yourself to enjoy the fun of failure to try to re-frame failure and criticism as part of the fun. Otherwise, your dread of criticism can paralyze you.

-a part of this article quoted from an article written by Gretchen Rubin.

Friday, February 27, 2009

Which Brain Do You Use?


In which direction do you see this lady is moving/turning?

If you don't see the picture as how it should be, click here

(This is a quotation from a website where this article was taken)
Amazing isn't it? This is what actually happens...

If you see this lady turning in clockwise you are using your right brain.
If you see it the other way, you are using left brain.
Some people do see both ways, but most people see it only one way.

If you try to see it the other way and if you do see, your IQ is above 160 which is almost a genius. Then see if you can make her go one way and then the other by shifting the brain's current. BOTH DIRECTIONS CAN BE SEEN

This was proved at Yale University, over a 5 year study on the human brain and it's functions. Only 14% of the US population can see her move both ways.

I'm certainly not a genius but I do see that sexy lady turning in both directions. How about you, guys?

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Funny Things

Let's have some fun!! Enjoy the funny pics I found on the net while surfing. Thanks to some site where I've taken those pics from.


let's race guys!!

oopps!! I wonder which ball does the guy wants to take?

Leave your sandal outside with peace in mind..

The new costume for Air Asia pilot, maybe? (pssst, i wonder what the yellow thing is)

yeah, kepadha shemua pejhalan kaki, lee-hard khirry and khannan sebheleoum mell-in-task.

Got any data to save? Let me burn a CD for you.

When the footballers go shopping..

Need a ride?

Look how me sexy, baby.. yeah.. want me? just gimme a call, anytime.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

A story about life

I always wonder what is going to be if everyone has no problem at all and just live in happiness all the way. As long as you live as a normal human being, there's no possible way you can run away from PROBLEMS. You may solve it, but not totally avoid it. The people who says that he or she has no problem is the unstable one. It might be something wrong somewhere with that person, isn't it?..

Sometimes we just keep complaining when the matters occur and if it gets even worse, some of us shall easily gets upset and loose consideration (what language am i using?? haha). Owh please.. Come off it- its pointless to be in state of misery while you can do something at least a prayer. Seek for God's guidance, Insyaallah.. it will be easier to get through it.

Don't put the blame on yourself nor anyone else if something happens, the matter of fact is, its just a reason for Allah to TEST us. Its just similarly like the time we were in school.. you can't directly go for SPM without UPSR and PMR. you have to take one after another consequently to be as how you are now... Thus, those test indeed something to make us greater and better. One day, will it even matter? And there will be another obstacles to face too, maybe bigger things.

As in my case, there are so much changes in my life starting from my childhood until now, and i believe that today's going to be just nothing much than a historical story of my life which the author is Allah and I'm the main character. The character that keeps on playing his role in the life until the death comes.

Even though all those things about my childhood has become just a story by now, I still can take it as a guide for me to face another bigger things in my adult life. It's something what I call learning from the past. What I've been trough in my childhood life, now is a memory and I'm learning from it. It may sounds like my childhood was freaky, but yes, it was. I didn't have many friends except for my elder sister and a younger brother. But it wasn't the matter as there were worse things happened in my life. And now, it's the time for me to put my life on the right track. There's no time to turn back, I'm on the acceleration lane and ready to speed up fast.

Hope to be strong and stronger in my upcoming days..

Sunday, February 1, 2009

THE NEW PROTON MPV 2009

Here are some pictures I grabbed form http://paultan.org regarding the eagerly awaited 2009 Proton MPV. Looks quite nice on the exterior which resembles Toyota Wish a bit. Don't have any idea about the interior, hopefully nice too like its external look.






Anyway, I really love white car like the above pics. For me, the color looks best on the well-designed car which enhances the external look of a car. That's my personal thought.