The Temporary Calmness

Alhamdulillah..
Things are getting better for me recently. Everything runs smoothly as planned, with only some little problems here and there. Well, that's normal to have problem, isn't it? Life is more colorful with problems and trouble.

I'm so glad with this situation right now, even though i know it's not going to last for long. Because in this real life, everything come and go. Nothing's gonna last forever. If you're sad, the sorrow doesn't last forever, and if you're happy, the joy won't last for long. That's the reality of life.

I realize that I better learn how to overcome those troubles instead of getting in them. With Allah's will, I believe everything is possible. He knows what's the best for me, and I hope for His bless to come over to me.

I've never thought of having what i have right now, even though nothing much, but I'm very thankful to The Almighty for everything. I might be not a rich, good looking, gorgeous and super smart person, but I've been given a heart and mind to justify what's good and bad for me. That's an invaluable gift for me.

I miss him

Lately I've been spending my times thinking about him. I'm missing him, so much. I still can feel his presence in our life, just like he's only out for work and will be back home in the evening. I can still hear his voice inside my ears. His smile lingers in my eyes.

But the matter of fact is, he's too far away from us by now. And there's nothing I can do to keep him back to us. I can only pray for his peace and Allah's blessings upon him.

He was always there when I needed help and raising me up when my world was going down. He's more than just a brother. He was a father, a friend, a leader.

I really miss his words, motivating me to go through every trouble with calm. We used to went through troubles together. Being with him made it easier when life gets hard. He knew how to make people smile. Anything he said, never something to irritate others. His dream was big, to make everyone that he knows happy.

Now I have to face this fate that he's gone, forever. All I can do is just keep on praying for him. May peace and Allah's blessings be with him.

WHEN...

When she seems to keep away from me
When her song doesn't sound as good anymore
When the melody of our song disappeared with the wind
When there's no more cheerful good morning wishes
When my nights seem to be lonesome and dull
When my phone tend to be quiet all day long
When my messages doesn't get any reply
When I try to put up with it and failed
When I feel that she needs me no more

That's when I know she's just a dream
A beautiful nightmare that I never wanna wake up from
But the nature of dream is, it comes and goes easily
When the sun smiles and the moon falls asleep
The dream left to be just a memory
Then the memory stand alone all on itself
And vanished when the days come and go

And I am just a dream
And a dream never last for long

DO I NEED TO BE IN LOVE?

Sometimes I am wondering too much about LOVE. For a guy at my age, most people would say that I should have a girlfriend-a very typical way of thinking. And some of them says that it's kind of abnormal not to have one. Some even accuses that I am a gay, just because I don't have a girlfriend. Whoa, that's too much i guess. The question is, do I really have to have one? Well, I have no answer for that..

I am currently getting somewhat close to a very best female friend, but I'm not sure if that's love. I have to admit that I feel nice and cozy chatting with her as she knows me really well. I tell her my problems and she tells hers to me too. I feel that she is who I belong to be with. But that's just my poor instinct's wishful thinking. I do feel happy, but is that love?

I don't want to get stranded alone in the jungle called love. What if she doesn't really like me? And the most important thing is, I have promised myself to try to avoid getting in love matter before I find someone who really loves me. I have a faith that my destiny is in God's hand. So, I would prefer just to let it comes naturally to me when the time is here.

But sometimes, I tend to get confused between my instinct and my principle. I want to stand on my principle, but at the same time have a feeling to love and be loved. May Allah leads me to the rightest path of life..

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Feel to write something, but somehow don't know what to write about. Just now, i logged into my friendster account and bumped into some of my old friends' profiles. Looking at their pictures after years not seeing each other, makes me think about the old times. The times we had together. Most of them look different than before, the time we were together in secondary school.

Now after years, I'm glad that they still recall my name and my look. Proving that I'm still the same me that I used to be. For some of them, I don't even recognize their look nor the name as they're using different name for their profiles.

Back to the school times, I was a person who loves to keep myself out from the crowd. Lack of self confidence, I only had a few friends who was really befriended with me. Still remember their names and, sure, their look. Azad, Yusri, Wicit, Noriah were amongst who I really befriended with. Maybe that time I thought I have a very bad look, that's why my self-esteem vanished easily and I didn't have much friends. But now that I'm a grown up guy, I tend to learn that the look doesn't really has anything to do with my confidence. As long as I feel comfortable, then I'll get my confidence.

One of the things I've learnt from school times, never compare myself to another person. I am what I am, differently from what they are. If they think I look weird, I would say no, I look unique instead.

Anyway, really happy+amazed with some of them who has make it with their life. Some of them even has their own car and properties. And me? hehe. Still the same........

SUCCESS

When i heard that one of my friend is setting up his very own company, I was like ,wow.. He's moving forward while I'm still here one year after finishing my study. Yeah, I'm quite impressed and amazed by his courage on running his own business. Hopefully he will make it in current global economical issues. Plus with limited knowledge and experience in administering the business.

That's his story. What about me? I've made it too, in my own way. From zero to hero. (hahaha) Because I see an achievement as something that i've gained by my own effort, never care about the value because for me an achievement is invaluable. And sometimes even failure can be seen as an achievement when it teaches me to come back for more and never give up easily.

I called my very best friend last night, chatting about so many things. She told me about her work, and I told her mine. We were laughing at each other for what happened to both of us. Complaining about our current life compared to other friends who has better life. Then we realized that life is not just about obtaining something that we wish for, its likely about going through what we sometimes hate, and be back for something better. Well, sometimes life is funny and thank God for everything i've achieved until today, and that i still have what i own today.

The road to success is not an easy and smooth path, there are so many sadness, failure and rejection to find along the way to get it. I came across a writing indicating that one must face failure in order to succeed, and there's no escape from that. That's why I said, even failure can be seen as an achievement. So, never evaluate your success only from the property you have or may have. Open your eyes and see deeper in your life that you must have something to be proud with.. and that's your real success.

WHEN I FEEL down...

Have you ever feel like hiding away from the surrounding world? Feeling desolated by what had happened on you today, or yesterday, or the past times? Or maybe for some serious cases, feel useless and hopeless?

I know how it feels as i do feel it sometimes.. and believe me, it doesn't feel good.
When i feel down, I tend to be vulnerable and sensitive which results to a short term isolation. Most of the time, I like to go calming myself alone at the park and usually it works. After spending a few moments, I can feel the energy is back and there i am ready again.

Nevertheless, that method doesn't really work for some cases. For instant when I feel financially depressed, it takes me some advance methods of solving it. Being at the park for financial problem doesn't make it any better. There should be other way to solve the problem, not just sit back and let it be. My solution based on the cause.

And I am very grateful to Allah for every strength He gave me to find solution to my problems.

TIPS:HOW TO DEAL WITH CRITICSM AND AVOID STRESS

If you are a person who only loves to hear praises and good comments, make up your mind and get real. There's no one who can be totally perfect from every angle. Every normal human being will at least do something wrong in his whole life, and I firmly believe in that. And the sequence of the mistake done is CRITICISM which most of the time hurts especially for those who is vulnerable to criticism. Thus, learning on how to take the criticism in a healthy way shall help us from feeling down.

1. Listen to what a critic is saying. Really listen, try to understand that point of view, don’t just nod while you formulate your retorts.

2. Don’t be defensive. This is the toughest step. You may have your own point, but try to remind your self , “I welcome criticism. This person is helping me. I’m eager to hear how to improve myself/life.”

3. Don’t fire back by criticizing your critic. Your comments will just sound defensive, and you’ll escalate the exchange. This urge is very difficult to resist, because the impulse to justify and attack is strong when you feel criticized, but it just isn’t helpful, and it certainly isn’t effective.

4. Delay your reaction. Count to ten, take a deep breath, sleep on it, wait until the next day to react to the critic…any kind of delay is good. For example, when you’re upset about something that happened to you, don't let yourself do anything about it for few moment – and sometimes no action is better than action.

5. Explain honestly the reason for your actions. Sometimes it’s tempting to re-characterize your actual feelings and motives. Usually, though, that just complicates things more. It becomes impossible to have an honest exchange.

6. Admit your mistakes. This is extremely effective and disarming. When I got my first job, my father told me, “If you take the blame, you’ll get the responsibility.” I’ve found that to be very true. Difficult, but true. Admitting mistakes is the first step, then…

7. Explain what you’ve learned. If you can show a critic that you’ve learned something, you prove that you’ve understood the criticism and tried to act on it. That, itself, usually mollifies critics.

8. Enjoy the fun of failure. Re-frame the issue entirely to embrace criticism. Fact is, trying new things and aiming high opens you to criticism. Tell yourself to enjoy the fun of failure to try to re-frame failure and criticism as part of the fun. Otherwise, your dread of criticism can paralyze you.

-a part of this article quoted from an article written by Gretchen Rubin.

Which Brain Do You Use?

In which direction do you see this lady is moving/turning?

If you don't see the picture as how it should be, click here

(This is a quotation from a website where this article was taken)
Amazing isn't it? This is what actually happens...

If you see this lady turning in clockwise you are using your right brain.
If you see it the other way, you are using left brain.
Some people do see both ways, but most people see it only one way.

If you try to see it the other way and if you do see, your IQ is above 160 which is almost a genius. Then see if you can make her go one way and then the other by shifting the brain's current. BOTH DIRECTIONS CAN BE SEEN

This was proved at Yale University, over a 5 year study on the human brain and it's functions. Only 14% of the US population can see her move both ways.

I'm certainly not a genius but I do see that sexy lady turning in both directions. How about you, guys?

Funny Things

Let's have some fun!! Enjoy the funny pics I found on the net while surfing. Thanks to some site where I've taken those pics from.


let's race guys!!

oopps!! I wonder which ball does the guy wants to take?

Leave your sandal outside with peace in mind..

The new costume for Air Asia pilot, maybe? (pssst, i wonder what the yellow thing is)

yeah, kepadha shemua pejhalan kaki, lee-hard khirry and khannan sebheleoum mell-in-task.

Got any data to save? Let me burn a CD for you.

When the footballers go shopping..

Need a ride?

Look how me sexy, baby.. yeah.. want me? just gimme a call, anytime.

A story about life

I always wonder what is going to be if everyone has no problem at all and just live in happiness all the way. As long as you live as a normal human being, there's no possible way you can run away from PROBLEMS. You may solve it, but not totally avoid it. The people who says that he or she has no problem is the unstable one. It might be something wrong somewhere with that person, isn't it?..

Sometimes we just keep complaining when the matters occur and if it gets even worse, some of us shall easily gets upset and loose consideration (what language am i using?? haha). Owh please.. Come off it- its pointless to be in state of misery while you can do something at least a prayer. Seek for God's guidance, Insyaallah.. it will be easier to get through it.

Don't put the blame on yourself nor anyone else if something happens, the matter of fact is, its just a reason for Allah to TEST us. Its just similarly like the time we were in school.. you can't directly go for SPM without UPSR and PMR. you have to take one after another consequently to be as how you are now... Thus, those test indeed something to make us greater and better. One day, will it even matter? And there will be another obstacles to face too, maybe bigger things.

As in my case, there are so much changes in my life starting from my childhood until now, and i believe that today's going to be just nothing much than a historical story of my life which the author is Allah and I'm the main character. The character that keeps on playing his role in the life until the death comes.

Even though all those things about my childhood has become just a story by now, I still can take it as a guide for me to face another bigger things in my adult life. It's something what I call learning from the past. What I've been trough in my childhood life, now is a memory and I'm learning from it. It may sounds like my childhood was freaky, but yes, it was. I didn't have many friends except for my elder sister and a younger brother. But it wasn't the matter as there were worse things happened in my life. And now, it's the time for me to put my life on the right track. There's no time to turn back, I'm on the acceleration lane and ready to speed up fast.

Hope to be strong and stronger in my upcoming days..

THE NEW PROTON MPV 2009

Here are some pictures I grabbed form http://paultan.org regarding the eagerly awaited 2009 Proton MPV. Looks quite nice on the exterior which resembles Toyota Wish a bit. Don't have any idea about the interior, hopefully nice too like its external look.






Anyway, I really love white car like the above pics. For me, the color looks best on the well-designed car which enhances the external look of a car. That's my personal thought.

TRIP TO EAST COAST (PART 2)

These are some pics I've taken from the trip..


the busy Pasar Siti Khadijah, Kelantan.


a scene taken in Taman Tamdun Islam, Terengganu.


some unique feature on the shop wall in Terengganu.


Taj Mahal in Taman Tamadun Islam. Guess what, it looks so real (like what I see in TV, I've never been there. haha) except for the size.


Crystal Dome of the Crystal Mosque.


A nice view from Titiwangsa R&R that I snapped on the way back to Kedah.


The famous Crystal Mosque, Terengganu.


Floating Mosque, Terengganu.

TRIP TO EAST COAST

This is my third trip to Kelantan but the very first time visit to Terengganu. Initially when my office clerk told me that we're going to the east coast states, I was so excited as I've never gone to Terengganu before. So, I agreed to go along with pleasure. But when it was about the time to go, when I got the tentative itinerary in my hands, I found that the activity for the trip was sooooo boring and very the 'makcik-makcik'. Guess what, the shopping activity conquers the trip over other activities.

I was about to cancel the trip when my colleague said he's not going as he got another thing that needs him to stay-and I was relieve too because there was a reason for me not to go. But finally he said that he can go, just few days before we should depart. My God, obviously I had to go too because there's no more reason not to go.

Except for the shopping activity, I can say that Terengganu is pretty awesome. The scenery amazed me with the unique features and beautiful architecture on some of the buildings. On the left side is the picture taken from my hotel room in Terengganu at night scene. I wish we could stay there for longer but the traveling agent has made our time spent more in Kelantan instead of Terengganu.

Actually I don't really favor to go to Kelantan as I've been there a few times before. So, the excitement has decreased when we departed to Kelantan after 1 day in Terengganu. There's nothing much I can say about Kelantan except for its duty-free-area Rantau Panjang where i've been spending quite a lot of RM for garments and souveniers. Other than that, just OK.

I think our way back was
pretty exciting as we stop over at Tasik Banding (the left pic) which the scenery was fabulous-except for the dirty toilet.
Before that we previously stop over at R&R Titiwangsa where the wind so cold and fresh. So bad, that nice place was contaminated with trash thanks to 'great' human attitude. However, I managed to snap on some great scene as in the right hand pic. And the best thing is we had our chance to see a wild elephant by the road side when we leave the Tasik Banding. It's not everyone gets such the chance since it is a wild elephant which lives deep in the rain forest.

As the conclusion, I would say that this time trip was.... mm.. maybe nice but not great. In fact, I was more enjoyed when we reached back in SP last night. Anyway, thanks to my boss who had generously sponsored the whole trip. Who knows, next time we're going abroad for vacation maybe? ngeheheh

THE LUCK MATTER

The World is UNFAIR. Those are the very common words usually heard from some people who thinks that they're unlucky. The question is, why do some people have all the luck while others are perpetually unlucky? Professor Richard Wiseman of the University of Hertfordshire was determined to get to the scientific bottom of the luck, and what he discovered may surprise you:

I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.

Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research and over the years, have been interviewed by me. I have monitored their lives and had them take part in experiments. The results reveal that although these people have almost no insight into the causes of their luck, their thoughts and behaviour are responsible for much of their good and bad fortune. Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas unlucky people do not.

I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: 'Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50'.

This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.

Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected.

-a part of this article is taken from a site which I don't recall the name-

So next time when we feel down and unlucky, think again.. maybe it's just a part of ourselves weakness that leads us to that kind of UNLUCKY situation. Hope this 2009 will bring the best of luck.